broad term for two basic kinds of profanity: (1) Taking the name of the Lord God in vain Proverbs 30:11  There is a generation that curseth their father, and doth not bless their mother. There have been many occasions when my wife and I have turned off a movie after hearing the “G.D.” word. We keep arguing to the point where she says we are do e watching this movie and turns off the tv and she's going to bed. Get out. In fact, have you ever noticed that no one ever curses Buddha, Krishna, Allah, or these other false gods? I am seeing a councillor and I wrote an email to him which was gentle but firm letting him know that I am standing my ground and will not accept this behaviour. The story from the husband who had an argument when ttakig out his phone at dinner? I did not say thank you because it's not like she made it. I do realize that once the voices raise the ears close and so even if this happens, I later come back to her to try again to get her to seek help, this has been going on now for three plus years, with her in and out of rehabs. In the New Testament, Peter denied Christ, just as Jesus predicted he would. Not one single acknowledgement did I get. Let nothing foul or dirty come out of your mouth. The curse is that, in the main, women will lose the battle of the sexes. If you haven’t left your father, mother, relatives and everyone to be joined to your husband or wife, you are in rebellion, disobeying God’s Word and destroying your marriage. Then tell her to repeat what she says now...women fear physical confrontation from men and she will back down quickly. All doors and hearts are shut. She asks to go to another store and she wants to buy beauty products she does not need but we go anyway to avoid a fight about that. I have suggested to him to go seek help with a doctor but he keeps saying that if I wouldn't talk he would not get upset. If you answered yes to any of these questions then the spouse that is bullying you can control their temper they are just chosing not to around you. Hi everyone, I have the husband like this for the last 13 years. And how do you get these great photos? You have to look at this from a point that he is so insecure that he is bulling you; you need to take back the power and not be a victim. In short, Job’s wife was saying, “Give up!”. Don't blame her but I advised her I am seeking help with anger. Did he lose something? Not only is incest between a parent and a child shameful and abominable before God, but all forms of incest. Dear Roger,What does the Bible say about swearing?Sincerely, DavidDear David,Swearing is most likely as old as the human race. Mom or Dad. I'm on medications, not him!! I felt like the kids stuck in the middle would be better off if they were orphans - that's when I knew I had to leave. Tell her to go ahead when you are in her face. Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers (NIV). The Bible says that if we confess our sins, God is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us from all unrighteousness. To the men on here that are being verbally abused by their wives...you can do one thing specifically to make her get her attitude in check. I'm sure he thinks his daughter is s great leader but according to them I guess she's the one running everything & she or he didn't thank me. Is it a sin to use curse words (also called swear words or cussing)? For example "be careful" means I think she isn't careful. So great was his sufferings. Curse God and die!”. Please Note: This does not mean that every difficult circumstance that we go through is a curse. In the same way, you husbands must conduct your married life with understa… I want to leave so so much whenever that happened but I have no family near, no friends and no money. It is very hard watching them hurt themselves and you in the process and any chances of a future together. This abuse is so bad we have together for 22 yrs married 20yrs I have never told anyone what I go through with him I am covering up for him. I am in a verbally/emotionally abusive marriage. It can hurt many people and lead us into much trouble and sin. But it is emotionally abusive of their husbands to put them in that position. Is their something wrong with me for feeling this way? He can't control it!! I've been in this place, and had to leave and the scars last a lifetime when it happens to you. Even if someone curses us first, God’s word tells us a great way to handle it: “Bless them that curse you, and pray for them which despitefully use you” (Luke 6:28). “But shun profane and vain babblings: for they will increase unto more ungodliness” (2 Timothy 2:16). Finally something!!! “But I say unto you, That whosoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment: and whosoever shall say to his brother, Raca, shall be in danger of the council: but whosoever shall say, Thou fool, shall be in danger of hell fire” (Matthew 5:22). But in no way does the Bible say to leave your husband or wife unless he ir she has been unfaithful!!! great hub. Eiddwen from Wales on September 04, 2010: Loved this one again and I agree you don't get anywhere by screaming and shouting abuse at each other. Incest is a form of child abuse and sexual immorality. There is no easy answer here and if I have offended her or anyone else by my admission I am sorry and I nam trying to hold our family together (have a 17 yr. old daughter) I know I cant make her change, but it is pure hell watching her kill herself and our family by being so resistant. All kinds of foul language and insults to my character. I think her angry mindset makes the entire world seem angry. I rearly get out out house he always punishes me it feels like advice i am broken :(. It is common today to hear curse words and think nothing of it. My husband is abusive and demeaning, threatening and controlling. She was throwing laundry bins around and screaming that my day the next day was going to be spent doing it all and cleaning her room. So I stayed and I finished watching the movie. People cuss when they’re mad and even when they’re sad. I have smiled, provided, uplifting, kind, inspired, support. I think respect is a big key. He has not had any affairs at all. I feel beat up. Blaspheming God’s name was worthy of the death penalty in the Old Testament. Proverbs 26:2 ESV / 68 helpful votes. Enter your email address below and hit "Submit" to receive free email updates when new content is written for this site. Should Christians use profanity in their conversations with others? When she leaves do work he saids bye jerk I'm leaving. Many blogs are riddled with profanity-laced tirades, and YouTube videos are filled with profanity. Some may consider you a “nerd” or a “goody-goody” if you don’t curse like a sailor. I saw this relationship growing up and experienced it some myself and often wondered how people "just leave". This is his 3rd marriage - first ended when wife accused him of being abusive/threatening her and hitting her. Do they act this way in public? How do they stick up for themselves when it's apparent they have no bargaining power? You have to stand up for yourself and not allow this to happen. Like a sparrow in its flitting, like a swallow in its flying, a curse … Did you know that I let my wife's father live in my house for 3 years, free food, room & board while my wife ran him all over the place. I never in a million years thought that this would be my life. The Bible makes this abundantly clear. I really wish I had a way to get out of this without living in the street and loosing everything. Why does she do this? You wanted a thank you for the meal prepared but while grocery shopping made a conscious choice not to say thank you about the wife putting your favorite pie in the basket because after all..she didn't make it? Looking forward to more. She did not take no for an answer and even said "why was I talking back to her?" Then I feel I can't leave without my two year old. “But the tongue can no man tame; it is an unruly evil, full of deadly poison” (James 3:8). The youngest teen is a girl and is closer to her and is treated better. I many many times ask him not to. He yells so loud that I'm sure my neighbors here it! It's impossible to love someone that abuses you. I am so scared and lonely. Our world revolves around him. Most people are able to control themselves if expected to. To the ladies out there, you can be the offenders, too. So he does this to me over the phone. You are appreciated. We went to a marriage counselor once. Copyright © 2021 Revelation.co. she is stubborn, strong minded, and a reaction to my action. At the same time, I now see cursing as God sees it: It’s a potty-mouthed sin that no Christian should commit, and if you do commit this sin regularly, it’s time to get serious about repenting from it. old thread but never an old topic. We now check ratings much more carefully to make sure we’re not going to watch TRASH that takes the name of God in vain. If there has been discussion already...why not enjoy dinner without the phone. The Bible is full of cursing. She gets up in my face, bullying me and calls me names. My husband screams at me and calls me names when he is mad. Awesome hub. He works out of town a lot, for weeks at a time. None, really none. Dawn Michael (author) from THOUSAND OAKS on August 26, 2010: ahorseback, yes true, sometimesyou can tell though! I pray but no god answer. C ursing is a topic found throughout all of the Bible. I didn't remind him. I have worked with many peole that have bipolar personality and when they take care of themselves with medication, theray, exercise, good nutrition, they can lead a fairly normal life, but many of them instead of getting help decide to self medicate with drugs and booze, and that is just not acceptable, when there is a family involved! USA on February 07, 2012: I am this person at times; this is not due to my having low self-esteem, it is due to my wife not desiring to treat her substance abuse problem and the underlying stem of that condition which is low self-esteem and depression. If I talk he disagrees with all of what I say, so when I tell him I do not want to talk he get angry. It will feel unnatural but she will get the point quick and will probably get more physical in a good way with you down the road...tried this with my abusive wife and it changed 180degrees. Has he been told that he's helping to save marriages? The Bible has more to say than we realize Check out what the apostle Paul says about the language Christians should use: “Watch the way you talk. I have look and thought day and night to see how I can get out of this hell hole but I can't see. Didn't know that before I married him. Ecclesiastes 10:20  Curse not the king, no not in thy thought; and curse not the rich in thy bedchamber: for a bird of the air shall carry the voice, and that which hath wings shall tell the matter. Bible verses about incest Is incest a sin? He still can not acknowledge what he has done and will not acknowledge my email either. I need to protect my kids and need to get away from her. He screams, he gets this hate-face, and points his finger at me. To take God’s name in vain means to take something Holy and make it worthless, common, or empty. There has to be a place where people like us can talk I get so sad and lonely. We should also gently rebuke others who make a habit of practicing this sin. When he wants to talk it is me listening to him. She went on for two and a half hours, preventing me from sleeping (separate room). An excellent wife who can find? So we didn't talk to each other all night and we went to sleep. I am SO tired of it. Great article, Dawn! The Bible speaks of sin as failing to love God and love His people. Or in your household does one person stand still and suffer while the other lets out? is rudycote@gmail. If you want it removed just let me know, and I will remove it right away. Dawn Michael (author) from THOUSAND OAKS on September 08, 2010: Thank-you for your commentPuebloman and Eiddwen! She denies she is angry but she thinks I am always angry. What Does the Bible Say About Cremation? The next morning, went directly to mental health to find out why I got so angry (shaking, short breath, tense, etc...). Life is ended road to me and my kids. The Bible begins with God Almighty doing a lot of cursing. Bible verses about cursing In today’s culture cussing is normal. DEAR DAWN: good work on this site and topic. Instead of encouraging Job to faithfully endure, his wife said he should just lie down and die. God clearly condemns cursing, using rough language, filthy jokes, swearing, and frivolous words. His most recent incomes $11,200. Should Christians Cremate or Bury. Such passive abuse. Hi Benjimester, thak-you for your comments and I enjoy reading your hubs too! We are not to imitate the world and the way the people […] I am feeling so bad that it hurts my body. Then he could live and do anything he wanted more so than he does now. I have a husband that is always screaming at me. Now it’s become ingrained in society’s daily conversations. I feel horrible and I want my marriage to work what do I do? He is very caring and loving but when he argues he is totally out of control. Women who are bullied and burdened by these types of men usually don't have money or means to leave. The oldest saw a therapist last year to deal with her. How do I handle situations like this? Here are some scriptures that condemn frivolous cursing and swearing (bold emphasis is mine) or bad language: “O Timothy, keep that which is committed to thy trust, avoiding profane and vain babblings, and oppositions of science falsely so called” (1 Timothy 6:20). God commands us to honor our mother and father and let me say this, you only have one life so don’t waste it. How do people just leave with kids and no money, sometimes no job, and nowhere else to go? We have become so desensitized to swearing that some parents hear their 7 year old do it and they don’t even bat an eye. Thank you for making the point that these bullies can control their anger outside the home--that part of my husband drives me crazy. He also says that using harsh language (or calling a brother a fool) can potentially lead us into hell. Christ-like qualities are emphasized. Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window). If it's not physical abuse, sadly, it is tolerable because your life really isn't in immediate danger. My fault. mwatkins from Portland, Oregon & Vancouver BC on December 08, 2010: Words stab like knives to the heart, except deeper than any knife can go. It is a silent death and I hope you find a way to get yourself through it. On the way home from mental health, overwhelming feeling of guilt. He is narcissistic from what I have read. I got up and left to the sound of her rage echoing from the house to be heard outside at 3:30AM. How do I handle that? Answer: It is definitely a sin to swear (curse, cuss, etc.). This is clearly a vile sin in God’s eyes, and rightfully so. In Job, chapter two, we have the last mention of Job’s wife. Dawn Michael (author) from THOUSAND OAKS on August 25, 2010: Hi Puts Ballard, thank-you for your comment and yes so true about once spoken you cant take back, its better to just keep to your self in the heat of the moment....lol. The Bible condemns cursing, filthy talk, and a loose tongue numerous times. “By swearing, and lying, and killing, and stealing, and committing adultery, they break out, and blood toucheth blood” (Hosea 4:2). Dawn Michael (author) from THOUSAND OAKS on August 30, 2010: Hi happyher thank-you for the comment and visiting my hub! I have seen her do this to a neighbor once. Dr. Adrian Rogers once said this about the tongue, “Speaking in tongues is not a sign you have religion. If I leave my middle teen will leave with me. wow this is really good. My husband shouts at me everyday for very little things it's been 3 years now I am just fed up of this we have 2 gals , 2.5 , and 3 months . My wife wants to leave me. Really I'm not her child for her to talk to me that way never have I told her why she talks back to me or anything near it. My husband was like this, but was then diagnosed with major depressive disorder so he takes medication for it. I really pray hard every day that there is a light and a possibility for me for a better life ...without him. A sign that you have religion is controlling the one tongue you do have.”. This is emotional abuse and ive been through enough emotional abuse from my injury. Then the arguing started. (a big difference), If you have any objections to this let me know. Some wealthy people live next door & have become friends with my wife, who takes him over there to work. So we go and we shop. All the best! “Not that which goeth into the mouth defileth a man; but that which cometh out of the mouth, this defileth a man” (Matthew 15:11). I believe more education needs to happen way before any marriage certificate is handed out . Did he break a promise? A spouse under no circumstance has the right to treat the other person in that manner. Great reading all the comment, right on the mark, am in this position and been married for close to eight years now and nothing seems to change, ave been blamed for his shoutings, but funny it starter right after our honey moon, wish i had seen this part of him while we were dating, he leaves me with no money, and the kids and I solely depend on him, makes it almost impossible for me to keep a job, am leaving this year and just trying to save up all i can , i agree with JM1, u know everytime he says we should talk, he is actually saying, u keep quiet while i talk, everything i say makes no sense, i wish i had realized what i was getting myself into.its a horrible relationship to be in. or lest I be poor, and steal, and take the name of my God in vain. ( Job 2:9 ). The person doing the screaming may think that they have gotten the other person to change or agree with them but the truth of the matter is, is that they just bullied their spouse. She is far more precious … Can Christians Sin Once They’ve Been Saved? Aren't rows usually between two people? Dawn Michael (author) from THOUSAND OAKS on December 08, 2010: Hi mwatkins, thank-you for the great comment so true what you said about trust being earned, and being a bully, that is always the sign of a truly weak person! I have no one to talk to. THank you for these hubs, I refer to them often. After all, the Bible is God’s supernatural answer book. Movies will almost always use the “GD” word, “F” word, and other filthy language. I kept saying no but I need to go to work tomorrow so I gave in. Relationship books will tell you 70% or more men cheat.It doesn't talk about how dirty men are with women.Also men talk about women who are stupid for them..The men I know do treat docile women worse than aggressive women because they take their crap.They bring their girlfriends home in front of their wives and laugh at them and call them stupid.They cheat, spend their money on strippers and drugs.They laugh at them with the women and call them stupid.The docile women always get it worse because they take the crap off men.Dumb and docile women.When this women decides to leave him for his behavior shes usually stuck with his kids while he partys and screws everything he get during the seperation.During that time he usuallky laughs at her and calls her dumb , when they get back together hes worse,he has new girlfriends.He just partied his ass off while she sat with the kids. I should have done other laundry that was waiting, not the bed sheets. I'm no fool and considered a catch. I look in the mirror and don't know the person looking back. Its been so hard because I know what I did was right and yet I still care and miss him and even love him. “Whoso keepeth his mouth and his tongue keepeth his soul from troubles” (Proverbs 21:23). “Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks” (Ephesians 5:4). You then need to make a commitment to hold your tongue and speak wholesome words, not filthy cussing. I have said I would and he says to go ahead. We get home and we are talking a bit more she grabs a snack and I drink some water. It was a nice gesture correct? She has been violent with him which was witnessed by a therapist. 1 Cor 7:4 gives your wife just as much “authority” over your body as you have over hers. So, I packed up some things and left. While cursing may be common, it reflects a lack of maturity in the Christian faith, as well as a poor vocabulary. Even though the flesh can sometimes manifest itself in a moment of weakness (just like with The Apostle Peter), Christians are commanded to turn away from filthy language and cursing. Over the past year my wife has become very abusive. Job’s life had completely fallen apart. People can judge us but we are doing it for the kids and not because we don't have strenght but we have no way out. You are standing your ground not as a victim running away from her but as an aggressive alpha male who won't tolerate such behavior. When I have taken my kids to therapists to deal with deaths in the family and a friend's suicide she usually doesn't attend the sessions. She laughs and says I keep talking about it so I want it so I stopped talking to her and went to sleep in the guest bedroom. Do they act this way around friends? I recently packed my bags and left. There are better ways to communicate without yelling or becoming verbally abusive. I asked her if she need anything from the store and If she would like to come. There are so many side effects of […] This is more prevalent in a spouse that gets angered after drinking or is taking drugs. Immature undisciplined and completely unacceptable. He threatened to throw my stuff out on the lawn, change the locks, and divorce me if I left again. The Lord Jesus talked about Paul's suffering and reminded him that when he is weak then he is strong. You want to hear another reason why he treats me bad as well as his daughter? One way to prove this scenario that they do indeed have control is: Ask yourself these questions, do they fly off the handle at work? When two people who care about one another disrespect each other in this way than neither persons point will be taken to heart and there will be no resolution to the problem. We can rightly assume that Job’s wife suffered right along with Job over the loss of their children. She thinks I am lazy, but she knew me well before I was injured and I worked very hard at my job, building my house, which I owned before the marriage. My wife says this man is the best Christian she has ever known in a man. What the curse of sin created, believers in Christ are called to correct by living according to God’s Spirit. Yes, it is also illegal and it should be reported. “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof” (Proverbs 18:21). Children often pick up these nasty little “4-letter words” in the school system from their friends. “Even so the tongue is a little member, and boasteth great things. My husband always says that I am responsible because I don't understand how he is but yes I do. I understand what this is like because I have someone who abuses me for so long. But you cannot use Scripture to force your wife to have sex with you. I worked in child support for one year and couldn't stand it one more day because of this. I'm no kid - Mom of 4 grown kids, professional person, independent financially ( he gives me nothing) and he treats me like THIS? Do they act this way around friends? Last night my wife went into a rage at 1AM because she discovered I had laundered her bed sheets. This one really hits home and getting it under control is so important. I can't do that to my kids even if I live this life, they don't deserve to have no place to call home except here. I disagree with him about ANYTHING. We Christians should lovingly rebuke a brother or sister who is committing this sin unrepentantly. You husbands likewise, live with [your wives] in an understanding way, as with a weaker vessel, since she is a woman; and grant her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered (NASB). The end result of this type of communication is that the person who is being screamed at will eventually become numb to their spouse and all of the love, affection and respect that they once had for them will … She has done was she was supposed to do for years and is sick of it and is not listening to me any more. I hope it doesn't hurt my chances of keeping my kids. Do the same exact thing if she threatens to hit you. The worst curse word you can ever use is to take the Holy name of God and use it to curse something. Ephesians 4:29 tells us, "Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen." My psychologist told me today my wife married for the money after my wife explained to her cousin 22 years ago, before I marred her, at the kitchen table bragging how much money this American made. This is also something that people need to know- sometimes it's not shared blame, espcially if it's a mental illness. Screaming like yelling at someone up the street. My e-mail. I have a spine and brain disability (traumatic brain injury) and have narcolepsy and my wife followed me a long way through my injury, but lately she has become very mean to me. Lizett from The Great Northwest on September 08, 2010: yes, I agree with you. Thank you for your insight, and excellent advice! Battered women are often blamed for fighting back, swearing or crying for help. Great read. Any communication we have ends up being a yelling match and so I just stop. Wow, this is our relationship. If you’re struggling with this sin, it’s time to pray to God and confess your bad language as sin. Never once did she tell me let's go to bed. And then the questions, what do you do to make him react like that. “…I said, I will take heed to my ways, that I sin not with my tongue: I will keep my mouth with a bridle, while the wicked is before me” (Psalm 39:1). I say no she chickled and I slide to the bed and she refused to move over so I can fit . noturningback from Edgewater, MD. I don't know what to do. Your post is such a comfort cause I always think that I am wrong expecting respect from people but most of all from my husband. I am going through someone screaming in my face for 1 hour straight during the day saying "So you want a divorce don't you, DIVORCE IS WHAT YOU WANT????

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