You seem hell bent in blaming me/men for everything. I would never try to even bother get into a relationship today because you people are fickle. Well done. It's a schoolboy error. I remember my wife and l had a silly fight one day and she felt so bad she sent me a bunch of flowers at work. I suspect they're all revolting against the system of enslavement that having their own "darling" Japanese women would otherwise push them into. Why isn't my crush talking to me anymore. Because I know to do it God's way. When you have that going on your marriage is already going downhill. And I have to manage all outside contacts. Made a great education for my sons, who will probably never marry, thank GOD. Also, this is why the culture has been corrupted, along with the women, most of who take the shape of their containing culture. Sex comes from within and it's a desire from within. "If you think that this list is great and a textbook to live your lovelife by, then great, go for it.". Do you not know you got to answer to God for that? Romance is fine. Do not be angry at woman, you just admit you're at fault and you're very much guilty. Of course. Hara continues by sharing 10 ways foreign guys express their affection that make their Japanese girlfriends fall head over heels. Some people are insecure and need signs of affection... No some people are just secure in their relationships and like to show affection for each other. Not really. I have always found her to be very appreciative of my efforts. If you where being fake then why even bother proposing. Have you heard "sweet talking jerks"? While the husband in other hand, can concentrate in work with all his force, without worries and having clear that his family always will be there. We still do that after all these years. Yes, Japanese men are known to be shy but so are Japanese women and its no secret that Japanese couples lack communication skills on both sides. You were still married. If one does not follow through and ensure the contract is maintained, there is every chance that it will fail. They know not to pick why they are not going to be responsible growing old and dying with. To me you definitely do not sound like a good man if you ask my personal opinion. But hookers are more honest. I should not have to beg a man to do the right thing and it's common sense. We have fewer skills for expression than others do. Yikes! @Jamie05rhs yep, meanwhile MOST women defend these bad women to the bitter end. Same goes if you're Japanese. Grow the hell up. Hold hands like you did when you were small. That's what J women are all about. And what would "my treasure" like with her coffee this morning? I like cooking. I don't however like to clean. They just want the experience UNTIL they're tired of it and want to try the new, latest, "shin-hatsu-bai" romantic experience. Anyways japanese girls are dumbs and are being deceive by foreign looks, its so easy to tell that the looks are what they are after not about romantic expressions. I am not wasting my time on a man.And first of all, God is in control. (MF, nc, rp, 1st, oral, rom) The article IS about unmarried couples. All. Which also telks me you were lacking Intimacy in that marriage. I don't think there's a Japanese child gene that makes people not want to see their father from time to time. A Japanese who has read only a few of comments will comment: I could say that japanese girls are maybe one of the most desired women in the world, and not only for the beauty they have, but because occidental people see in japanese women, these strong traditional values that teach the girls how must be a girl and a good one; unfortunately and dangerously these values have been wrongly and absurdly harmed in occidental developed nations and here is one of their colateral, in other cases terribles, consecuences. You screwed your own stuff up. It does make sense, just because you don't agree with it and you cannot put in the effort to show a girl she is loved it does not mean it's all lies. It's very simple. Hopefully they don't, but I've known more than a few Japanese women who have dated foreign men and then after a while get sick of all the lovey-dovey stuff. You have nerve to marry a person who you claim your love and you did that to your wife! A man does not ask a street hooker out on a date. There are exceptions to everything. I like to spend over an hour on foreplay and then edge for a bit while making her bust a few times. Group Sex 10/18/18: Five Friends at the Nude Spa (4.67) A group of friends visit a co-ed nude spa for the first time. And you're still behaving as if you did not know anybody else anything. If you don't have any ideas check a couple of Korean dating web-sites. Nice article... but how about writing the opposite piece now... how Japanese women often disappoint their foreign husbands/boyfriends? Poor example of a man. I'm just being polite to her, be myself and appreciate what she does for me. I was extremely young, grow up in a dysfunctional abusive family, how to take care of my mother who was sick with cancer and had a disability and she died while I was only shy of 24. This is the stuff I love to do... Maybe not the I want to see my reflection in your eyes bit. Words are flattery to add to a relationship but it's not the only thing that counts .. Just find someone who can take both the good and the bad ,side of you & vice versa . maybe if more couples put more effort into their marriages then maybe divorce rates would be lower. In 2003, there were 740,191 marriages in Japan, of which 28,831 involved a foreign bride, and 7,208 involved a foreign groom. I never once asked for man I'm not looking for one now, I'm not asking ever. And do you you consider this to be pathetic, or fake, or signs of insecurity or whatever, which are the only possible explanations some people here seem able to attribute such behaviour to? He always mentions it is our anniversery day (the 14th of every month) even when I forget. I would have called it "examples of creativity among foreigners" in Japan. I cannot with you people. No offence intended. 01 (4.76) I think you wrote a great explanation of Japanese thinking and practice re divorce and children, and it's good for foreigners to read that. We used to spend money on 1st dates.. today that would not be a wise investment. Oh you just have his HANKO so everything is cool here hanko here and here OMEDETOU GOZAIMASU??? It wasn't easy, but I just kept reminding myself of the lonely nights and days, no wedding service, no friendship, no communication and certainly no affection of any kind! It's essentially a man trying to "own" his own women, and you CAN'T own anybody, much less tell them who not to hook up with. i really love this blog... coz its really true , .. foreigner is really different than japanese man , a man that not just a japanese woman dream about , but every woman in this world , looking for .. .... Do not force these other culture to Japanese men . My blunder was naively, even cavalierly on the surface, assuming that she knew I couldn't imagine living out my life w/o her. ", nah, it's fake. This is why we see the things we do today, as our economic and other systems are reengineered to enslave us. It's the lifers/eikaiwa teachers/ marrying their students that need to go all out to prove their worth. That means every man who is not Japanese is romantic and Japanese men are the only unromantic people on Earth. What if Japanese women have a child with a foreigner in Japan and gets divorced? Today's world requires a certain level of openness... a certain level of transparency, communication and truth. Since guys have a low success rate and mostly end up broken from rejections. It is about your spouse! Kiss and makeup! I'm not sure why either. Hurry, I want to see myself in those beautiful eyes. And I am the first to own up to it. Scratch that. You'll note what the article DOESN'T say: It DOESN'T say these are the 10 best ways for foreign guys to make Japanese women fall in love with them. But you can not generalize all men from your own, there are still lots of sincere guys who would do as the article says. Now I am saddled w/ a wife who cannot bother to learn the lingo here after 17 years, negligible communication, precious little emotional affection, but am blessed w/ a wonderful, bilingual son. Japan seems so stuck in the fifties-sixties where competing with the "Jones's" comes to mind. I don't have to sit in cour I learned not to do stupid if you're already telling me you're going to do it. Foreigners are romantic? That is what friendships are for. Although there are some exceptions. And, unlike most of the stories in this article, my husband has continued to do these things and many of the romantic things he does are also functional, they make my daily life easier and more pleasant. When a girl’s having a hard time in love, she tweets about it, hashtags it, and calls her friends and whines about what a shitty boyfriend she has. I was thinking of this and it was very clear; the more intense love in no way have to mean any of this list. Use your Facebook account to login or register with JapanToday. There is a certain sadness in the way that some men will read the above tips and immediately dismiss their own behaviour under the guise of honesty and worldliness. You know nothing of me, and yet you call me all manner of things. All that matters now is whether or not if you're romantically compatible. Girls set the pace in dating, so if it's dead, that's the way girls want it. Probie it wont kill you to have alittle bit of romance in your life. My great grandparents would fight like no other, but they stayed with each other for more than seventy years until my great grandmother died. I ask girls out when I get her signals. I know for one, as I have been in the same situation. And guess what. As a Christian woman I cannot be with a unequally yoked man. By doing so, you will also receive an email inviting you to receive our news alerts. College-educated women initiate divorce at an even higher rate: 90%. The word of God says this. And stop acting so freaking arrogant? funny she was only second generation in the U.S. After a guy is married for 10 years he thinks he's the boss. guys are scared that any thing can be misconstrued to be sexual harrasment. Japanese or no, women are women, and we like to be made to feel special once in a while. It permits the spouse (usually the husband) keep most of his assets, avoid payment of alimony and provide little or no child support, but the price he pays is the abandonment of any relationship with his children, while the other spouse is punished economically, but keeps her children. Anything that you don't like you take it up with him. I was being fake then. Were you bullied as a kid? I have never had any problem showering my lovely wife with affection, whispering sweet nothings and generally doing the romance thing as well as I can manage it. Yeah, some guys do indeed fall head over heels for the cute J-girl batting her eyes, as you say, but my point is that it goes both ways, and again that's why nobody should take this kind of article seriously. And lest we forget, while it is a sad fact, it's still a fact that most international marriages end in divorce. Btw, Japanese man makes "movie scenes" ten times better than Frenchman, even sex. Not shame me but not making your choices because I already see and know what kind of man you are. I know not to be stupid and marry a guy Like You with your attitude. Wow. If you see them as 'sad and pathetic' I suggest you have a problem with sincerity and being considerate of your partner. As previously mentioned, women aren't idiots. Instead of complaining so much or blaming it on the woman, why don't you change your life? Those who didn't figure it out by age 12 had their mothers or friends informing them about what most men are really after (whether the men themselves knew it or not). Which may explain some of your posts. And it has nothing to do with you bring you home flowers on giving materialistic things. Easily flattered by Hallmark quotes from valentines cards, eh? I'll try and get my wife to tape my blade. I don't do any of these things but I reckon I'm a good boyfriend, I'm not a domineering bully or a shy, mummy's boy like most Japanese guys. As a man you are to work, if a woman come work and you're both okay with that then you do what you got to do. The typical 'deal' in Japan is that, upon divorce, the father pays nothing for the child's support, and he never sees his child. If I tried this , my wife would have to spend the rest of the day deciphering my crippled-spider-crawling-through-spilled-ink handwriting. I am no perfect woman. If a man is only with me because he wants sex I don't want that kind of man. if I'm bymyself I don't purchase stuff and slowly get rid of stuff if I'm in a relationship. I was always encouraging him to find his path in life and he was too busy feeling sorry for himself to notice. That's his main responsibility. Foreign men love the feminine and respectful qualities of a Japanese woman, something that women from the US and other parts of the world have perhaps forgotten. No, it's true love. So what? Thank God I'm not going to pay attention to either of you cuz you're just angry bitter men who want to try to shame me for something that you made as choices. Just like the sad and pathetic women who fall for the sad and pathetic guys who do these sad and pathetic things. That's abuse. If you are the type that genuinely does not understand the appeal of romance, try considering the appeal of any shared emotion, be it the thrill of competition, victory, or simply the quiet satisfaction of the company of a friend, and frame it into the context of a relationship. @anonymous Exactly. Sounds to me that certain people only take, take, take. @Cabadaje, I was baffled that you had to work at keeping women interested in you when you were single. It's a good option for those Japanese women that want something more if they can handle the social consequences and manage the language barrier. So it's very clear to me it has nothing to do with that and your marriage was nothing like what your painting as. 20 things I tried but while I'm going to try for something that somebody's going to screw me over with! Some relationships go to hell, regardless of nationality. If that's desirable, then why so much complaining? You're ruined your marriage and you'll ruin your kid's life and you have no te to buy you want full custody? (34/Japanese, 38/French). Some of that stuff is true and what most in the comments say are true to, but from all the sweet talk, yea I can say many good compliments and Japanese women will highly interested in me. Or rather, how great their gaijin partner is trying to look. common practice to hook young women not because you are beautiful or rich. Which is why it's probably good to have quite a few deep and meaningful conversations about money, children's education and lifestyle and not just fine dining, flowers, songs and sex. You men who think like that and still can't even keep long term relationships. Have you ever been caught red-handed by your parents while doing something they shouldn't know? Ted Barrera: Caveat Emptor! I guess Japan has changed because 40 years ago it was more like a cross to bear for the Japanese woman living in Japan married to a foreigner. Japan is easier because the guys are mostly raised to be spoiled brattty (chonan-like) from pre-school on up while in "our" countries we are told to respect women as our mothers and GROW-UP. You have problems! Then hide behind your faith. 7.enable her manga world fantasy life :P. Many women are insecure and need this attention. Foreign-born women who married a Japanese-born man were predominantly born in China (10,242), The Philippines (7,794), Korea (5,318), Thailand (1,445) and Brazil (296). snackswithbeer Your attutide smells more than my farts. If she is really into you, she will be patient, and if she is really as good as you think she is, time will help you tell. You're supposed to talk about these things. If I do and take your advice, I'm in trouble either way, because 90% of you men aren't STABLE minded as people. I only say that because I know that for a lot of Japanese (men as well) who date and marry foreign spouses it starts out very much like some of the women quoted in the article talk about -- being swept off their feet, wood and romanced like many Japanese counterparts would not, etc. Myself, as I said, I do not consider marriage to be a disqualifier for romance, nor any particular advantage. Schmuck lessons anyone? Having sex does not mean you love a woman. And he had clearly meant this way. (34/Japanese, 38/French). The educated Taiwanese have soft qualitites in communication and natural expression skills that very few Japanese women can match. Tamarama: Great observations. For you to even suggest even screw myself up because you already screwed up says something about you not me. A quality human being. I think for every Japanese girl that are into the foreigner fantasy there are 10 J-girls that aren't. Sex, and companionship. You little peckerweeds are stupid and have bad attitudes. So, how strange am I?! That was already a no. It's all "gomansuru" (s/p) big time hahahaha. The divorce rate is 22%, about on a par with Europe and roughly half what it is in the US. Actually, I don't often see fat, balding, ugly white dudes with sexy Japanese girls at all. I had no personal desire for marriage but I was overall open to the idea of dating and having a family and getting married. The law in U.S. provide for joint custody in divorce cases involving children, Japanese law does not provide for this arrangement. If you have never been to America or to Europe, you probably are not familiar with those losers. I just think it's silly, and the stuff done in it is done by people who want to make themselves look good to their fairytale-viewing partner. I feel bad for these women in the article, I truly do. Many, BUT NOT ALL (not I said that...) Japanese women really want to get married to the best guy they can get, so they pull out all stops to show that they are great cooks, gentle, sexy etc etc. What is the point? Romance is no different and enjoyable too IF you have your head screwed on! After a while it wears off and the person MAY continue to utter words of love just to keep things going, if they don't stop altogether. Well some of them like the foreign romance style, but once their married with kids, they revert to the expectations that were raised with. 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