If I imagine to see him crying, that would be the worst for me. Even if it had absolutely nothing to do with him, my anxiety would try and find a way to convince me otherwise and it really isn’t ok. Like I would have scenarios in my head where either something horrible happens to him or he decides I’m not good for him anymore and he has little clouds of our memories following him. If nothing alcohol only enhances ur thoughts and lets u act on desires that u feel ashamed to be do when sober. Sure, we had arguments, but never big ones and everyone seems to think of us as the cutest couple they know. I have suggested sleeping on the couch or staying with someone else, but he doesn't want that. He treats me so right, never yells at me or hurts me and sees a future with me etc. – popular memes on the site ifunny.co We continued to go inside and ordering everyone to go home. So I know that that night I was feeling so happy that everyone was together in the pub finally and that the show was so awesome and that I was out partying with all the cool kids and I guess that's what led me to have the urge to give someone a kiss. I did not in any way intend for that to happen and I didn't like a single second of it. I love my boyfriend so much... to my love. Basically it started off so small, he was telling me silly jokes and I was just in a non laughing mood. So the next day my boyfriend confronted me about the first situation and I told him that guy number two tried to kiss me (he heard stories from the others who were present some days later). And I've cried about how much I loved her behind closed doors, God this girl just gets me so damn emotional. I wouldn't find you sincere at all. We had our first sleepover at my house last night, and when we were getting into a certain act, there was a minor accident, and I was really upset because I felt like I wasn’t ready for a certain thing that we wanted to do building up to it, but when we were minutes away from acting on it I panicked. Your love is a miracle that I am so happy to have received. They were all extremely drunk as well and doing drugs (which I didn't do) and I had been annoyed with some of them (this number one guy for example) the entire evening, because they were behaving like toddlers and this mutual friend and I had been trying to keep them all together and not lose any of them, because not all knew where we lived and where they thus could sleep. Give it a week or two of minimal contact and some space to get your heads clear. Need help with your relationship? I also am affectionate after drinking but the difference is I don't grind against strangers and kiss them instead I look for my SO and express affection toward person I love, again you have no breaks, subconsciously and openly you desire others (Judging from the handsome comment and the fact that you jump the guy, even while your love was in front of you). I love my boyfriend so much. I love my son i feel too much and it makes me cry sometimes and hurts my heart. For fuck sake, I hate cheaters, I would dump you on the spot after seeing you grinding and kissing that first guy. I love my boyfriend, I love everything about him and he is so sweet and he would do anything to protect me. And most importantly, whenever I get drunk there's not much else I say but "I love my boyfriend". he also needs to come to this decision on his own - likelihood is he said to himself he'd leave straight away if you ever cheated on him - but now it's actually happened he doesn't know what to think as he still loves you. I'm always kind of afraid that my boyfriend doesn't like me whenever we are out drinking together (probably because he rejected me once two years ago when he had way too much to drink himself) so I seem to think that if I can make other people laugh he will too. Sometimes (like tonight) I feel the love for him so strongly that I have to cry. Apoligise properly and sincerely (without crying as he doesnt need to feel sorry for you and will make it seem like you're trying to be the victim) and make it clear you'll at least try to change your actions or how you come across to people when drunk - two - make sure those guys that thought it was okay apologise to you and don't show their faces around your boyfriend again. save. Two weeks ago i finaly told him I love him. When we got home we sat up for a while longer and this number two guy came to sit next to me and had his arm around me. I was also still under the influence of alcohol and I tried to push his tongue out of my mouth which didn't happen as quickly as I wanted to. A lot of people here are scorning you and rightfully so. You wrote bla bla bla I kissed a guy I was attracted to another guy kissed me because my behavior made him think he could. That’s so much time wasted on men who had no meaningful role or impact on my life, men I forget as soon as I say goodnight. I cannot lose this amazing human being over this one fucked up evening. I hate to make anyone cry, let alone someone I love. I don't know what to think about it. Sep Last night my girlfriend made me cry by simply saying words. You aren’t ready for this yet and it’s okay, we’ve got plenty of time down the road and I’m not concerned about it tonight. Do you think you are good girlfriend or wife material OP? Well I've always had this fantasy of cucking a guy and having him watch well i finally asked my boyfriend at first he was really upset and against it but then he said he would do it if it made me happy... so we are there on the nigh i organized the guy and he came as planned well we got to it me and the guy were going at it i can't lie i could see how uncomfortable he was and i should … You did cheat on him, while he watched and then did it again after he left, which should signal to you that he was upset. Cookies help us deliver our Services. right in front of him? While this is harsh, and maybe a little blown out of proportion, the advice is definitely sound. It sucks, he’s my best friend in the whole world. She kept telling me: “Adrian I miss my ex boyfriend so much, please help me get back together as this breakup is destroying me and I am so unhappy”. Press J to jump to the feed. So, be patient, my love! Knowing you and having you in my life has filled me with so much hope and a deeper sense of appreciation for everything that I have in my life. ", Being drunk is not an excuse for any behavior. Your boyfriend or any future boyfriend is just going to associate it with any old argument and eventually dismiss it as 'just the way she is' so when you are super upset in the future and actually have something to cry about he's going to come off as cold or lacking empathy and make the … Discussion in 'True Confessions' started by la Principessa, May 30, 2010. This thing we were about to do, it’s just a plus. With your love, it really does feel like I can do anything that I set my mind to. Therefore the others thought we were having a consensual kiss and reported it that way to my boyfriend (who was already at home at this point). He doesn't like to show people that he's weak, and no one at school has ever seen him cry. But all of a sudden I felt his tongue in my mouth and was just completely paralysed. I've recently got myself a girlfriend and it's the best feeling in the world it's funny how things change before I met her I said being single is the best feeling in the world now I cant see my life without her, thing is I care so much that I get upset like earlier today I thought she went off me as she was coming across very withdrawn and was asking me if I'll be upset if she spoke to … It broke my heart so I started to cry some minutes afterwards. I read one of the poems to him, and he loved it. Last night, he said that he doesn't know if he can bounce back from this and that he honestly doesn't know yet if this will be the end of our relationship. All you said how nothing is your fault and there where reasons why you did the shitty things you did. It didn't feel okay, but I still felt kind of paralysed and didn't want to offend anyone or cause drama or anything. 71% Upvoted. Me and my boyfriend are best friends. like I know I love him but idk if he loves me cause like I had just gotten out of a relationship with my bsf (at the time I thought I was bi now im just not all that sure) and before her I was dating this really toxic homophobic guy who dumped me when I came out to him, so in my eyes my boyfriend was kinda like my knight in shining armor, but my birthday is in 21 days and … On the other hand, he does allow me to touch him more and says more sweet things. I was crying to him and I kind of felt disappointed/embarrassed of myself. That may sound old fashioned, but your behavior seems to warrant it. 5 comments. Ok?” He proceeded to hold me in his arms telling me he loved me. It might for example take him a couple of days to get over me crying about how stressful my life is. Now, if my boyfriend is too romantic, sexually I fear I might cry. My boyfriend is known to have a hard time to bounce back from things. I’ve told him this already basically but last night was probably one of the best nights I’ve had in a while. To hear him say that out loud absolutely killed me and sent my mind to a very dark place. Take responsibility for your actions, you cheated on your bf, and rather than go him with him when he was upset, you stayed out and cheated again. There’s tension because you’ve hurt him and he needs time to heal and hopefully get over it and move forward with you, or this may well be the end for you both if he can’t get over it. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Finally we had assembled a large portion of the group again and we danced a bit more. Being under the influence of alcohol doesn't absolve you of this fact. Like most of you who are currently overwhelmed with emotion and want to get back with your ex boyfriend, she was giving her ex absolute power over her emotions and well-being. Stop drinking. It happened a a couple of days ago, when we were both at my house, watching a movie. If you do drink ask friends to stop you from cheating but then again you are grown up so take responsibility for your actions. Quit drinking, get therapy, and hope to God he's better than you and doesn't dump you out of hand. just think about that for a second, This is the bullshit thing i seen in my life..No fucking shit, you did, and theres no excuse for that..you wanted attention you got attention. When we arrived at the pub I apparently started dancing very intimately with this guy I mentioned, let's call him number one. I got a bit upset this morning and told him how I feel ( I didn't … I also had a lot to drink that night, causing me to not even remember some parts of what happened. And I am still so incredibly in love with this guy. Your drunk behavior sounds kind of out of control, so if you are really serious about making changes, go to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings or something, or see an addiction medicine specialist. So I know that that night I was feeling so happy that everyone was together in the pub finally and that the show was so awesome and that I was out partying with all the cool kids and I guess that's what led me to have the urge to give someone a kiss. First of all there is a GIGANTIC difference between sharing with your SO that you would bone Leonardo Dicaprio and the dude that happens to be staying over at your place.... just not comparable and you are a shit partner for pointing out anybody you know in real life that you have the hots for and would fuck. What should be noted about that is that I don't ever assume that the movements I make are sexy. People often confuse the two - I love my husband, so I trust him…. He just makes me laugh because of his personality and the way he is. Not remembering large chunks of interacting with strangers in public is an incredibly scary thing. And most importantly, whenever I get drunk there's not much else I say but "I love my boyfriend". Whats the problem here? New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast. This is where many lovers go wrong. He also makes me smile because of his passion for things he’s really interested in like football, farming, trucks, etc. if your boyfriend has any self respect, he'd probably leave you. I totally understand that they reported it as if we were kissing, but it sure as hell didn't feel that way to me. How do you know, you apparently don't remember when you are drunk so maybe you do this on every ocasion you drink. What's worse is he loves you and can't just dump you so easily and so this is probably all festering inside him, making his life incredibly difficult because of all the conflict he feels. I've said such things before when watching movies or whatever, and we've been in a relationship for almost nine years, so I trust that he knows I think he is the most beautiful person on earth by now. I promise." I'm 15 and I've been with my boyfriend for nearly 5 months now, I fell in love with him quickly and easily, he makes me so happy and he's turned me into such a better person than I ever used to be, but small things like the disappointment of not being able to see him or, him cancelling on me or us arguing makes me cry for an extremely long amount of time and I can tell its … I’ve been with my boyfriend for four years. The next day, he broke up with me. Being with you is a special feeling that I never want to lose. Sometimes when I'm laying in bed I think deeply about him and us and I cry or just tear up because I love him so much and everything he does for me and us. I felt bad because I felt like I ruined the night in a way. don't do this for him and the relationship, do it for your own sake. When I was laying with him, although we didn’t sleep much due to it being our first time sleeping together and adjusting to it, his warmth, and his tenderness towards me was one of the most incredible things I had ever experienced in my life, I swear he’s the only one I can ever sleep next to every night for the rest of my life. So hard to not cry too. We do everything together. But I just started crying looking at her, which made her cry, and we were just crying and laughing. He wanted a long distance, I am more negative to it.. That is first time I have see/heard him cry. I really wish I had acted more defensively though. He makes me feel respected, secure, and loved. You made this post for yourself, not your BF. I just wish my anxiety would stop getting in the way of me being happy. Be patient and brave as you are! I'm never going to leave you. Speaking of that... how utterly disrespectful... seriously? I like to make my boyfriend cry. I Love My Boyfriend Dearly—but I’m Desperate to Have Sex With Other Men ... whom you love so much that by merely facing the reality of your desire, you feel unfaithful. I have been doing nothing but crying, because I am so sorry about everything that happened. As a three, we made a good group. My boyfriend cried when we discussed to break up or have a long distance. The songs called Have you ever? share. You should have gone home with him when he left upset because of the way you were with guy number one. I’ve always loved him but in the past 10 months or so the love has really shifted. During that I danced with this other guy (let's call him number two) and I again thought that it was innocent, because I dance that way with my best friend all the time. This thread is archived. We are both 17. I know this is a long story and I may come over as very dramatic, so I want to thank you for reading it, that means a lot to me. I call Bullshit. If you have been through a lot, learning how to be distant is … To me it conveys his care and love being so pure it eliminates your pain of the past. Give up drinking in public, drink only with future SO, this one will leave you and it is the best thing for him. To break it down to you, you fucked up big time. I would dump and I hope he does too. When my boyfriend and I first started dating, I knew right then and there that I found the one for me. When I'm sober I'm a bit shy and have some trouble showing everyone how much I like them and how much I enjoy being in their company, but whenever I've had some to drink I hug people and give them kisses. I see it more as a way to make people laugh about me and I guess it's some kind of twisted way to have people like me, because I seem to think that when they laugh they at least don't hate me. I don't think this is enough to throw away 9 years, but you just planted a seed of mistrust that will never go away. Long story short, we are early in our relationship, around a month and a half. I’m afraid of losing him. Apologies are close to worthless. We will spend so much time together that we will have to take a break of too much laughing, love-making, and kissing. I couldn’t let my partner go home alone upset because of something i’d done. All what you wrote are excuses, drunk or not if you know you have a "mood for love" when you are drunk, in other word no breaks then don't fucking drink. My boyfriend is a pretty tough guy. I love this song. And he is of course very mad at me and doesn't know if he can believe me concerning the second situation. Totally. I don t know if anyone gets this but I get really frustrated when people keeping asking me the same thing again and again after I told him I was just tired. Drunk or not, do not dance with other men you dimwit. He would never ditch me, so tell him that all you like . I guess my question is two-sided: How can I give him the space to be mad at me and to work through his own thoughts? One fuck up? We never fight, and are not the jealous type or something, as I said we are best friends and our relationship is just perfect, not one of those overly attached couples. All it did was show what your true desires were and break down any inhibitions or reservations you would have had when you are sober. Be a strong lion as you are! But truth is, on the inside, he's a really sweet, sensitive kid and I saw this not too long ago. 8. I’ve told him this already basically but last night was probably one of the best nights I’ve had in a while. I would prepare to get broken up with, if I were you. I would take him in my arms and do everything so feels better. Make it clear to your friends you've apologised to your BF and are working on helping him get over it - and to not get involved. Before I went to bed I took a shower (as I always do), but felt the need to really clean myself, because I felt so gross. My boyfriend is my hero, my one and only, my one true love. From now on, anytime you drink without him present he is going to justifiably wonder if you are cheating on him. He just makes me laugh because of his personality and the way he is. It just felt so extremely gross and I was just so weirded out. It's bullshit that you didn't remember it was the same guy and it's bullshit that you don't remember kissing him or acting that way because of the booze. My boyfriend obviously wasn't thrilled about all of this and decided to go home. All I can say is I feel incredibly sorry for your boyfriend. Ever since there has been this incredible tension between us and it seems to get worse and better and the same time. He did all of that and beyond. Let him tell you exactly how mad he is and how - if anything you can make him feel better. In that moment, I felt as if I had never felt more connected to him at any time in our relationship. I love him so much that I hate to see him in pain. My first boyfriend told me he was falling in love with me, and a few weeks later, we exchanged the words for real. All I can say is apologise, watch what you drink from now on and make sure you’re doing a lot of grovelling. My boyfriend was standing right beside me when this happened. If you guys really try to continue this relationships, it will be tainted and very strained. By using our Services or clicking I agree, you agree to our use of cookies. I never thought I'd be the one to post here, but here I am. Now I'm at the point that I often leave to another room or so when I feel that I have to cry, so he doesn't see me crying. No one has cared for me like he does. New comments cannot be posted and votes cannot be cast, More posts from the relationship_advice community, Continue browsing in r/relationship_advice. We were both fooling around and boasting about who … Hi. Have you experienced something similar and how did that turn out in the end? If this were me, you’d never hear from me again. Last night he was vulnerable towards me, he was sensitive towards me and was respectful of my needs and my boundaries that I needed from him to be respected. He feels like I've cheated on him and he says that he is just really mad and that this entire situation sucks. A lot of the people that slept at our place I had only seen a couple of times before or only while playing in bands. Every time I read a love poem I cry because it reminds me of me and my boyfriend. Anyway my own girlfriend went through much the same type of thing when she and I first got together. I know our situation could be way worse like long distance but I still fear that somehow things won’t work out, and I’m absolutely terrified of there being a day where we grow apart. Excuse me while I cry. i really doubt we are getting the full story here either-- this post comes off as a giant excuse...i think you knew what you were doing, and it is kinda BS to blame it on alcohol and "not remembering". I am writing this anonymously because in order to answer your question I am going to make reference to my current relationship. One hundred men, no true love! You need to let him see that you're sorry by more than just words - actions and generally don't cry every time you talk about it because he'll feel like he cant get out his feelings towards it without having to console you. You're absolutely right, you hurt him and in a profound way. I seriously think it is okay to feel like this. Grinding against males is only ok if you are single, how hard can this be, wtf is wrong with you. I love my bf so much that I cry Me (18f) him (20m) - I love my boyfriend so much that sometimes it just makes me want to bawl, and I feel like it’s unhealthy. By using our Services, you agree to our use of cookies.Learn More. Your entire post is nothing but excuses. Exactly! I love this so much. The show was amazing and afterwards we went to a pub for some afterpartying. Ditto, came here to say that a lot of this post sounded like me back when I would try to defend my bad drunken behavior. Life pro tip: don’t dance with guys when you are in a relationship. Recently I have been really stressed because I’m starting college soon (living off campus and we’re both still going to be in the area). I had mentioned some weeks before to my boyfriend (among others) that I thought one of the guys was good looking in a way you'd say that Johnny Depp or whoever is, so I didn't really think too much of it because to me it was nothing but something you'd say almost jokingly. Because we will be together again sooner than you think! And although we weren't together, it was one of the best moments of my life. Something shifted and it’s like a fantasy. We do talk about other things that these shitty events and he consoles me when I cry, but there are these awkward silences and of course all the talks about that dreadful night. by Shebe 2 years ago ; I love to read some of these poems because they really remind me about my boyfriend, and we've been dating a year and a couple of months. I know that when I drink I tend to dance a lot. Everyone is telling op that she'd a long road to gain his bf's trust again. hide. My high anxiety has been projecting onto my relationship and I’ve been really depressed lately from it. I got upset today because me and my boyfriend never go out anywhere and i feel trapped all i do is worry about money and do work for uni..my 2 closest friends live miles away..so come wk ends Im stuck indoors...Anyway this isn't his fault..but isn't great because he never wants to go anywhere much.. We ultimately did get back together — he said he ended things out of fear and I believed him — but I hated that I hadn’t seen his reaction coming. Whether it's romance, friendship, family, co-workers, or basic human interaction: we're here to help! I love him so much. The problem with crying every time you argue is that eventually it's going to lose it's power. We have been together for about 10 months and I definitely show more love than he does but I know he loves me just as much I just feel like I need to express it more than he does. He just let me sit there in his embrace and cry it out, and then the rest of the night was history. Whenever I drink I am full of love. I know he might not ever see this because he doesn’t have this app. My boyfriend is everything a girl would want and would need. It just showed him you are willing to be with other people, IN FRONT OF HIM. I trust him so I love him ….. (Presumably while single... right, OP?) I’ll blame it on alcohol. You didn’t ruin a single thing tonight, ok? It’s impossible to estimate how many first dates I’ve gone on, but even given all the weeks and months I’ve sworn off the apps, it’s easily over 50 and likely closer to 100. And do you guys think there is hope in this situation? Loving someone and trusting someone are two totally separate state of mind. I know this sounds incredibly dramatic and pathetic, but that's the way my mind works sometimes. I think that you really love him, and your really afraid of losing him. Period. If you do things that embarrass you/the people you love when you're drunk, you can't drink that way. I don't remember a single second of this, but apparently I have been grinding against him and even gave him a kiss on his mouth. Reply. We are just perfect for each other. I'm sorry, but your behavior raises so many red flags if you are trying to have a healthy relationship. Go to therapy and get your shit together, for person that says you love him you make it really hard to trust you. He is probably struggling with the fact that he is overcome with love for you, but you clearly don't respect the relationship, and he acknowledges that as well. She is so beautiful, the most beautiful girl who ever lived. I had had a shitty day at work with a colleague continuously flirting with me and me getting very tired of it and feeling a bit vulnerable. Short Love Letters For Him From The Heart . Fact is youre a horrible GF and hopefully your BF leaves you over your awful behavior. My advice is don’t drink as much when you’re out if it leads to you behaving certain ways and not remembering anything. A promise/follow through of changed behavior is better. (no tongue or anything!) get out of your head that he is going to leave you, and be happy. I just cant explain how … My ex boyfriend cheated on me, so I'm a little insecure and I have trust/jealousy issues (it's bad, i know). It's tough to overcome the notion that this type of situation could happen again...In his mind he probably thinks "if she's willing to cheat in front of my face, what does she do behind my back? He just turns to me and says “Hey, look at me.” So I looked at him, and he goes, “Everything is okay. And if all this still is not resonating with you imagine yourself in a dirty bathrom, going raw with a stranger, because that is your future if you keep it up and you will do this to any new bfs. After I got that tongue out of my mouth I remember looking up to our mutual friend in panic and going outside with him and crying for what felt for half an hour. So last night at like 2 in the morning my boyfriend (who thought I was asleep) rolled over, kissed my forehead, and whispered in my ear love you so much.

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